Welcome to edition #4 of The Reset Room, where you will receive tips, strategies and insights about all things mental health with a focus on ways to do a reset on some of the things in your life that may be leading to distress.

💭 A Gentle Question to Begin

Have you ever been in a room full of people you love… yet your mind feels three steps ahead?

Thinking about the food.
The conversations.
The noise.
Whether you remembered everything.
Whether you’ll have the energy for the rest of the week.

Many of us move so quickly during the holidays that we forget to actually arrive in the moment.
Thanksgiving is an invitation to slow the pace, soften the heart, and notice the small, beautiful things we often race past.

This week, let’s reset into presence. 🍂

🍁 A Softer Way to See Thanksgiving

A client recently told me:

That’s true for so many people.

It isn’t always conflict or old wounds that get in the way.
Sometimes it's simply:

✨ trying to do too much
✨ worrying ahead
✨ managing details
✨ or letting the little quirks of family members nudge our nervous system

But those quirks — the talker, the quiet one, the one who tells the same story every year — often become the warmest memories later. 💛

Here’s a gentle truth:

You don’t have to fix the whole holiday.
You just need to slow down enough to actually see it.
To taste it.
To feel it.
To let the goodness land.

🌾 THE RESET: A Holiday Lens Shift

Before walking into a gathering this week, try gently shifting your perspective:

✨ Instead of…

“That’s annoying…”
​Try:​
“That’s part of who they are… and I’m grateful they’re here.”

✨ Instead of…

“I have so much to keep track of.”
​Try:​
“I can enjoy one moment at a time.”

✨ Instead of…

“I hope this goes perfectly.”
​Try:​
“This moment doesn’t need to be perfect to be meaningful.”

Presence is the gift — for you and everyone around you. 🌿

💛 Try Using Mindfulness Scripts

At the end of each section of this newsletter you will see a script that I want you to screenshot and read through each day starting today and leading up to your Thanksgiving gathering.

Before you read these Thanksgiving scripts, here’s something comforting to know:

When you repeat a calming script — even silently — you activate the parasympathetic nervous system 🧘‍♀️, the part of your body that signals:

• you’re safe
• you can slow down
• you can breathe
• no emergency is happening

Most of us don’t realize how much time we spend in “fight-or-flight.”

Mindfulness scripts gently shift your body back into a quieter, steadier rhythm.

They also speak directly to your subconscious mind 🌙 — the place where reactive thoughts, old beliefs, and emotional habits live.

Repeating these scripts teaches your mind a new message:

“It’s okay to feel calm.
It’s okay to soften.
It’s okay to feel safe in the present moment.”

You don’t have to try to feel calm — reading the words slowly is enough.
Think of these scripts as emotional vitamins: small, gentle doses that nourish over time. 🌼

🌼 Daily Script for All Readers

Today I choose to move slower.
To notice more.
To soften instead of hurry.
I let myself enjoy the small sweetness — a scent, a sound, a smile, a memory.
I release the pressure to make anything perfect.
I let myself be here — present, grounded, grateful.
This moment is enough.
And I am enough in it. 💛

🤍 Co-Parenting Thanksgiving Reset

Thanksgiving can feel tender for co-parents — some of you have your children with you but some of your children may be with your coparent.

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 If you have the kids:

Let it be joyful.
Let the moments be imperfect and real.

And gently remind them of their other parent's love:
“Your mom/dad loves you so much — I know they’re thankful for you today.”

A single sentence can soften a child’s heart… and model gratitude beautifully. It gives them permission to show their love for the other parent to you. Hopefully this will be reciprocated by your coparent (forward them this newsletter).. but even if it is not reciprocated, your children will see the beautiful heart within you.

💛 If you don’t have the kids:

This day can still hold gratitude —
gratitude for rest,
for breath,
for the love you give all year long,
and for knowing your children are building memories, even if you aren’t in the room.

And please remember:
​Thanksgiving isn’t one day.
Gratitude lives in all the days around it.

✨ Daily Thanksgiving Mindfulness Script for Coparents

Screenshot it and read it each morning or night this week.
Let them settle your breath and soften your heart.

💛 Daily Script for Co-Parents

Today I honor the love I carry for my children, whether they are with me or with their other parent.
I release comparison.
I release guilt.
I release fear.
I choose gratitude — for what I have, for what they have, and for the moments we share and will share again.
I send love without needing to control.
I choose peace in the spaces between us. 🌿

🍂 A Closing Blessing

May your Thanksgiving be gentle.
May your heart feel soft.
May your presence be easy.
And may you notice the goodness that is already here.