👋🏼 Welcome Back to The Reset Room

If you’re new here — welcome.
Each week, The Reset Room is a place to pause, reflect, and reset small things that may be quietly contributing to stress, overwhelm, or burnout.

Last week, you were encouraged to get everything out of your head and onto paper — your brain dump.
Not to fix it all.
Not to perfect it.
Just to see it.

This week, we’re building on that foundation — because once everything is written down, something important becomes clear:

👉 Our plate is already full.

🌟 A Story from the Therapy Room

I had a client who recently came in with a long list of things they wanted to work on.

Better eating.
More patience with their kids.
Less anxiety.
Better sleep.
More quality time with family.

As they talked, I noticed something familiar — everything on their list involved adding something.

When I asked them one simple question, the room got quiet:

“What are you willing to stop doing to make room for this?”

That’s usually the missing piece.

Most people aren’t unmotivated.
They aren’t lazy.
They ARE already at capacity.

A lot of what drains us isn’t bad — it’s just expensive.
Some habits quietly cost us time, emotional energy, regulation, and connection.

And unless something is removed, the new thing has nowhere to land.

Can you relate??

✏️ If You Want ___, You May Have to Stop ___

🥗 If you want to change your diet…

You may have to:

• Stop buying “just in case” junk food
• Stop eating out of boredom
• Stop using food as your only comfort tool

🏃‍♀️ If you want to exercise more…

You may have to:

• Watch less TV
• Go to bed earlier
• Stop over-committing evenings
• Stop expecting motivation to show up first

😌 If you want less anxiety…

You may have to:

• Stop constant reassurance-seeking
• Stop consuming negative news late at night
• Stop mentally rehearsing worst-case scenarios

🚫 If you want to stop people-pleasing…

You may have to:

• Stop explaining yourself
• Stop answering immediately
• Stop managing other people’s emotions
• Stop saying “it’s fine” when it’s not

👨‍👩‍👧 If you want more quality family time…

You may have to:

• Put your phone in another room
• Stop multitasking during conversations
• Stop filling every free moment with productivity

👇🏻 Read the Coparenting RESET next or SKIP to the Bottom for your Final RESET tips.

🔄 The Coparenting RESET: What Needs to Stop First

This concept applies just as much in coparenting relationships — sometimes even more so.

If you want calmer coparenting communication…

You may have to stop:

• Responding immediately when emotions are high
• Matching tone for tone
• Rehashing old arguments in new messages

If you want fewer misunderstandings…

You may have to stop:

• Sending long, emotionally loaded explanations
• Using sarcasm or subtle digs
• Communicating through the kids

If you want your kids to feel more secure…

You may have to stop:

• Making “offhand” negative comments about the other parent
• Asking kids to relay messages
• Venting within earshot

If you want less conflict overall…

You may have to stop:

• Trying to get the last word
• Correcting every detail
• Responding to bait

✨ This Week’s RESET

Build Your “To-Not” List

This week, don’t try to change everything.

Instead:

1. Write down one thing you want to improve
2. Ask yourself:
   ​What is currently competing with this?
3. Choose one thing you’re willing to stop — just for this week

This isn’t about punishment.
It’s not about perfection.
It’s about making space.

📎 Looking Ahead to Next Week…

Next week, I’m going to share a real-life experiment my husband and I tried — that fits this very concept.

It wasn’t perfect.
It was uncomfortable.
And it was incredibly revealing.

Tune in next week to hear more.............

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🌿 Until next time,
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Tina 🤗