🌿 Welcome Back to The Reset Room

If you’re new here — welcome.
This space is for small mindset shifts, honest reflection, and weekly resets that fit real life.

This week’s reset came straight out of my own home… and it turned out to be much harder — and more meaningful — than I expected.

🎥 The One-Week Negativity Reset Challenge

Last year, my husband and I came across a TikTok challenge that sounded simple on the surface:

Go one full week without negative thoughts about yourself or others.

No self-criticism.
No judging others.
No negative commentary — even internally.

We looked at each other and thought, “We can do that.”

We were shocked how hard it was!

​👉 [CLICK TO WATCH VIDEO HERE] Be sure and have sound on.

😳 What We Noticed Almost Immediately

What surprised us wasn’t just how often negative thoughts showed up — it was how automatic they were.

• Negative statements
• Voiced judgments
• “Venting” that was really just spiraling
• Comparing
• Replaying the worst parts of the day

At first, it was uncomfortable and shocking — because awareness always is.

🧠 The Shift We Didn’t Expect

About halfway through the week, something changed.

My husband said:

When you actively try not to default to negativity, your brain starts scanning for something else to focus on.

And that’s when we noticed something bigger…

🏠 The Silent Competition of “Who Had the Worse Day”

Without realizing it, we had fallen into a routine of coming home and immediately sharing:

• Who had the worse day
• Who dealt with more frustration
• Who was more exhausted
• Who had more to complain about

It wasn’t intentional — but it set the tone for our evenings.

Once we noticed it, we gently started redirecting each other:
​“Okay… but what went right today?”

That one question changed the emotional temperature in our home.

🌱 THIS WEEK’S RESET: Take the Challenge (Together)

This reset is not about pretending life is easy.
It’s about noticing when negativity has become your default setting.

Your Challenge This Week:

Choose one person and do the one-week No Negativity Challenge together.

That might be:
✔ Your spouse or partner
✔ A close friend
✔ A coworker you trust
✔ Or even a coparent — if it feels appropriate and safe to invite the conversation

Doing this with someone else matters because:
• You catch things you miss
• You encourage each other
• You stay more aware
• You laugh when you realize how often it pops up

📩 Forward This Newsletter (Seriously)

If someone came to mind while reading this, don’t overthink it.

👉 Forward them this newsletter and send this simple message:

That’s it.
No explaining.
No justifying.
Just an invitation.

👇🏻Read Coparenting RESET or skip to the Bottom for the final message

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Coparenting RESET: When You Expect Negativity, You Find It

In coparenting, negativity often shows up before the interaction even happens.

When you expect the other parent to be difficult, your brain:
• Reads neutral messages as hostile
• Assumes tone that wasn’t stated
• Prepares for conflict automatically
• Responds defensively before necessary

This week’s challenge applies here too.

A Coparenting Version of the Reset:

Before reacting, ask:

This isn’t about ignoring real issues.
It’s about interrupting automatic escalation that keeps everyone stuck.

✨ Your Micro-Reset Exercise

Each day this week, check in with yourself:
1️⃣ What did I focus on first when talking about my day?
2️⃣ Evaluate the big picture... Was I overall more negative or more positive today?
3️⃣ What else positive happened that I didn’t mention?

Awareness is the reset.
Everything else follows.

🌉 A Bridge to Next Week…

Next week, we’re talking about how repeated thoughts quietly become patterns — and how to interrupt them before they shape your relationships.

If this challenge opens your eyes even a little… next week builds on it.

💛
Reset gently.
Notice often.
And don’t do it alone this week.

✅Hit Reply to accept this challenge and tell me who will do it with you. I would love to hear how your week goes as well.