🌿 Welcome Back to The Reset Room

If you’re new here—welcome.
This is a space to pause, reset, and gently look at the patterns in your life that may be creating more stress than you realize… and what small shifts can change them.

As we move through the beginning of the year, I want to talk about something I hear all the time in the therapy room:

Not in a dramatic way.
More in a quiet, almost confused way.

🌱 “How Did I End Up Here?”

I’ve had clients sit across from me and say things like:

• “I feel stretched thin all the time.”
• “I don’t recognize my schedule anymore.”
• “I don’t even feel like myself.”

When we slow it down, the answer is almost never:

• “Because I messed everything up yesterday.”
• “Because I failed a few months ago.”

More often, it’s this:

🧭 When Boundaries Slowly Disappear

One client shared how overwhelmed she felt—resentful, exhausted, constantly behind, doing everything for everyone else and nothing for herself.

When we peeled it back, it wasn’t because she suddenly became bad at time management.

It started with saying yes one time when she was already tired.
Then staying late again because someone needed help.
Then answering messages immediately because it felt easier than dealing with them later.

Each choice made sense.
Each choice was kind.
Each choice felt small.

But over time, those small "yes"es created a life with no protected space left.

🌿 The Quiet Identity Shift

Another client once said, “I don’t feel like myself anymore.”

This was a client that used to be very active and involved and found herself to be reclusive and shut down.

That didn’t happen all at once.

It started when she stopped doing one thing that helped her feel grounded—because she was tired.
Then she stopped moving her body—because life was busy.
Then she stopped reaching out—because it felt awkward after so much time had passed.

None of those choices were “wrong.”
They were survival choices.

But together, they created a life that felt heavy and unfamiliar.

🪞 The Reframe That Changes Everything

If you feel stuck right now, it’s probably not because of something you did yesterday or last month.

It’s much more likely the culmination of choices made throughout 2024 and 2025—
choices made while tired, overwhelmed, or just trying to get through the day.

And here’s the hopeful part:

👇🏻Read the Coparent Reset or Skip to the Bottom for this week's Reset challenge.

🔄 The Coparent Reset

This same pattern shows up all the time in coparenting relationships.

Coparents often find themselves saying:

• “Our communication is terrible.”
• “Everything feels tense now.”
• “We weren’t always this reactive.”

And again—it rarely started with one big blowup.

It usually began with:

• Avoiding one hard conversation to “keep the peace”
• Letting a boundary slide once because it felt easier
• Communicating through the kids one time instead of directly
• Making a comment under your breath instead of stating a clear need

Each choice felt small.
Each choice felt protective.

But over time, those small moments set a new tone—and the kids felt it.

Here’s the good news 👇
Coparenting paths shift the same way they formed—through small, intentional resets.

🌱 This Week’s Coparent Reset

Pick one small pivot:

• Respond, don’t react—pause before replying
• Say one thing clearly instead of hinting
• Move one adult conversation out of earshot of the kids
• Hold one boundary calmly and consistently..if you give in just once that could start that shift you later will regret

You don’t need to fix the entire relationship.
You just need to change the pattern.

🔁 This Week’s RESET

✨ Imagine This…

Imagine next year starting 2027 in a place you intentionally set out to be...

It won't be because you got lucky and everything suddenly improved…
but because you practiced a few small shifts consistently.

One boundary held.
One habit returned.
One interaction handled differently.

That’s how paths change—quietly, gradually, and powerfully.

💫 What you can do now......

Identify one small choice you’ve been making on autopilot—and adjust it slightly.

Ask yourself:

• Where am I saying yes when I mean no?
• What part of myself have I stopped prioritizing?
• What is one 1% shift I could make this week?

Small pivots compound.
And they lead somewhere new.

Patience is the key..... You did not overnight get to:

• Your current weight
• Your current schedule
• Your current relationship status
• The current condition of your home
• The current limitations to your mobility
• Your current diet
• The amount of alcohol you drink
• The number of cigarettes you smoke
• The increasingly negative perceptions you have

🫵🏼You're at a crossroads to change your course and one that is totally up to YOU...

You start TODAY with a small shift the other direction and do that consistently and then make another small shift when ready..

You will start a positive movement towards the direction you want to be. 🏁

You’re not behind.
You’re at a turning point.

💛
​Tina

Challenge: Hit Reply and tell me what one thing has gotten away from you and what 1% adjustment you plan to make NOW to get where you want to be when 2027 arrives. I will then reply to you with mine.