Happy (almost) New Year!🥳

🌿 Welcome to the latest edition of The Reset Room

I am REALLY excited to share this episode with all of you and wish I had one million people receiving this newsletter because I KNOW if you read this carefully and implement what you will learn, YOU WILL end 2026 with more accomplished and with a more positive view of self. You will also make a more positive impact on others as well which is contagious.... and the more people doing this results in a more positive and impactful world that we all live in!❤️

As the year winds down, I tend to quietly replay it in my mind, as I am sure you do as well.

Not just what happened —
but all the things we told ourselves we "should" have done differently.

“I should have been more consistent.”
“I need to get more organized.”
“I should make more time for the people I care about.”

This week’s RESET isn’t about resolutions or pushing harder.
It’s about listening differently to that inner voice — and turning guilt into intention.

🌟 This Week’s RESET: Turning “Shoulds” Into Intentional Habits

In cognitive-behavioral therapy, I teach people to listen to that inner critical voice. One of the most common automatic negative thoughts we have includes the concept of -- “should.”

“I should…”
“I need to…”

While often well-intended, this voice tends to:

• Chip away at self-confidence
• Create quiet guilt and pressure
• Point out what we aren’t doing — without offering a plan

When these thoughts pile up with no structure, people don’t improve — they shut down.

That’s why this week’s RESET starts with awareness before action and following these steps will set you up for a phenomenal shift in 2026.

✍️ Step One: Brain Dump the “Shoulds” (Separate Sheet of Paper)

I want you to find about a one-hour time slot where you can do all of the following steps uninterrupted. Below, I am going to give you a link to download my habit tracker, but first grab a blank piece of paper.

Your first task is to do a brain dump of every “I should” or “I need to” thought you’ve had this past year — without judging or organizing it. (I think my brain has a constant loop playing of the things I need to do... my list is quite long).

This list might include things like:

• “I should clean out the pantry or my closet.”
• “I should go to lunch with friends more.”
• “I should call my sister more often.”
• “I need to get up earlier so mornings aren’t so rushed.”
• “I need to put my phone down and listen to my kids more.”
• “I should plan healthier meals for my family.”
• "I need to clean those baseboards"
• "I need to make that eye appointment"

This page is not a plan.
It’s mental unloading.

When these thoughts stay in your head, they feel heavy and critical.
When they’re on paper, the nervous system begins to settle.

🧠 Why This Matters

Writing it all down:

• Calms the conscious mind
• Signals to the subconscious that these concerns are being handled
• Turns guilt into clarity
• Creates space to think instead of react

You may be surprised by how long your list is — and that’s okay.

Awareness comes before change.

✍️ Step Two: Sort What You Wrote Down

Now, look at your brain-dump list and gently sort it into two categories:

1. Habit-based changes - "H"​
   (things that require consistency over time...like drinking more water)
2. Task-based items - "T"​
   (one-time or occasional actions...like cleaning the pantry)

This step is powerful because it separates behavior change from mental clutter and also helps with the next step.

📝 Step Three: Transfer to the Habit Goal List

Next, download the Weekly Habit Tracker​

On the third page of the Habit Tracker you will find the "Habit Goal List" where you will see two columns .. a side for habits and a side for To-Dos (task-based).

From your brain-dump list:

• Transfer habit-based items you want to intentionally work on in 2026
• Add task-based/To-Do items that you want to complete in 2026

You are not committing to everything.

👉 You have 12 months to work through this list and now that you committed it to the list, the subconscious mind has intention and clarity and the likelihood of you completing it just went up by 33-42%.

🌱 Optional: Break It Down Further (If Helpful)

If it feels useful, you can break your lists into multiple pages:

• Personal habits
• Work or business goals
• Relationships or family
• Spiritual growth
• Health or fitness

Or — keep it all on one page if simplicity feels better.

There is no right way.
The goal is intentional clarity, not perfection.

⬇️(Read the Coparenting tips or skip to the bottom for final thoughts!)

🤔 A RESET for Coparents: Intention Before Interaction

This same process applies to coparenting. I do suggest coparents print a separate page for habits and tasks that directly pertain to coparenting.

Many coparents carry quiet “shoulds”:
“I shouldn’t react like that.”
“I should just let it go.”

Instead of criticizing yourself, write these down and turn them into intentional habits.

Examples:

• Work on noticing and reframing negative thoughts about my coparent
• Practice seeing my coparent’s happiness and involvement as a positive for our children
• Pause before responding so I don’t fuel unnecessary conflict
• Try to understand their perspective before assuming they’re trying to argue
• Spend intentional time with my kids having game night once per month.

When parents lead with intention instead of reaction, children experience more emotional safety.

🌿 Final Thoughts -- Why This Sets You Up for Success

Planning is not procrastination.
Preparation is not avoidance.

Intentional setup is how real habit change begins.

You’re not behind.
You’re building the foundation.

✨ This Week’s Gentle Reminder

Your inner “should” voice isn’t the enemy.
It’s information — waiting to be organized and handled with compassion.

One brain dump.
One intentional plan.
One reset.

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I would love to hear some of the insights you had while doing this exercise today or share with me your intention to set aside an hour to set your 2026 up to be your best yet!

I’m glad you’re here. ❤️

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— Tina