🌿 Welcome Back to The Reset Room As stated last week—May is Mental Health Awareness Month. Today I want to talk more about the stigma associated with "getting help" or "going to therapy". So many people think that counseling is reserved for people that are so mentally unstable they are unable to work or function in life and everyone around them already knows it too. However, it could not be further from the truth. Everyone has heartache.... Everyone will feel "off", anxious and depressed.......
9 days ago • 3 min read
🌿 Welcome Back to The Reset Room Last week, we talked about emotional regulation—what happens in those moments when everything in you wants to react… …and the power of choosing not to escalate. This week, we’re zooming out a bit. Because it’s May—Mental Health Awareness Month. This was the perfect time to unveil something I have been working on for about 2 years... the launching of the nonprofit Hopeful Horizons Outreach Since 2020 and Covid's entrance into our society mental health awareness...
16 days ago • 3 min read
🌿 Welcome Back to The Reset Room Last week, we talked about defensiveness—how quickly it shows up, and how powerfully it can shut down connection. This week… we’re taking it one step further. Because even when you understand defensiveness… 👉 in the moment, when someone says something disrespectful, rude, or deeply hurtful… it still feels like you need to react. Like you need to: ✔️ Stand up for yourself✔️ Set the record straight✔️ Make sure they know exactly how wrong they are But what if… 👉...
23 days ago • 3 min read
🌿 Welcome Back to The Reset Room Last week, we talked about defensiveness—how quickly it shows up, and how powerfully it can shut down connection. This week… we’re taking it one step further. Because even when you understand defensiveness…👉 in the moment, when someone is really harsh or even just plain rude....... it still feels like you need to react. Like you need to:✔️ Stand up for yourself✔️ Set the record straight✔️ Win the argument But what if… 👉 the real win isn’t in what you say...
30 days ago • 4 min read
🌿 Welcome Back to The Reset Room Last week, we talked about how communication can either build connection… or slowly break it down. This week, we’re going deeper into something that quietly destroys connection faster than almost anything else: 👉 Defensiveness 🌟 A Moment From the Therapy Room I recently had a couple in session practicing a simple (but powerful) exercise: One partner would share:👉 “Something I need more (or less) of from you…” The other partner had one job only:👉 Listen… and...
about 1 month ago • 4 min read
🌿 Welcome Back to The Reset Room If you’re new here—WELCOME.Each week, this is your space to pause, reflect, and reset patterns that may be quietly impacting your life and relationships more than you realize. Last week, we talked about how indirect communication and “hint dropping” creates disappointment and distance. This week… we’re going to explore defensiveness. You may be saying, Tina... but when I speak up it backfires on me because the other person seems to always get offended or...
about 1 month ago • 3 min read
🌿 Welcome Back to The Reset Room If you’re new here — welcome.Each week in The Reset Room, we pause together for a small shift in thinking that can help reset patterns in our lives and relationships. Over the past few weeks we’ve been exploring something many of you said resonated deeply — communication in relationships. First, we talked about the importance of saying what we need clearly instead of hinting. Then we explored how our brains build neural pathways that shape how we interpret...
about 2 months ago • 3 min read
🌿 Welcome Back to The Reset Room If you’re new here — welcome.Each week in The Reset Room, we pause together for a small shift in thinking that can reset patterns in our lives and relationships. Over the past couple weeks we’ve been exploring a theme many of you responded strongly to. First, we talked about direct communication — learning to say what we need instead of hinting and hoping people read our minds. Last week we explored how our brains build neural pathways that shape how we...
about 2 months ago • 4 min read
🌿 Welcome to The Reset Room If you are new here — welcome.Each week in The Reset Room, we pause together for a small mindset shift that helps us reset patterns in our lives, relationships, and thinking. Last week we talked about the importance of direct communication — using clear I-statements instead of hinting and hoping people read our minds. After that issue went out, I received a surprising number of responses from readers who said: “This is one of the hardest things for me in my...
2 months ago • 3 min read